There are some people, who will never grow. That's because they are small minded. Stupid, mean and selfish people with too much attitude and severe narcissism. They are very dangerous people, only because their selfishness and lack of clarity and transparency will over shadow anything that you do with them. They are not dependable, irresponsible, disrespectful, and will only ever do anything because they want something from you or something for themselves. They will never have any problems in causing you financial, emotional, mental or even physical harm as long as they get what they want. Knock these people out of your life, because even if you are a sharp person, you will not be able to use them for your benefit, because they are just too dumb. They will never care about how long you have known them, or what you have done for them...they are unable to see the big picture.
Take the example of a security guard I met a while ago, when it was summer in the middle of the blistering heat. I came into an office building, for a business meeting. The security guard sitting comfortably on his chair behind his desk was staring at me, and he could see that I was dripping with sweat. I went over to him and asked him for some tissue to wipe my face, and he told me that there was no tissue. I COULD SEE THE BOX. When I pointed it out to him, he frowned and reluctantly gave me one sheet. ONE SHEET of tissue, from the box that his company paid for, and would never affect him no matter how many he gave away. I looked him in the eye and could see why he would never get past being a security guard, at the age of 45. Even with all the knowledge of lack of opportunity, and obligations on people..I still could see why he really would never go anywhere. Because he lacked any sort of respect for people, and didn't care about anyone else except himself, more concerned about him getting one less piece of tissue for his desk rather than helping someone who had just come out of the sun.
Another person I came across, was a Chinese restaurant owner in Toronto. I came in to ask for a glass of water, and he frowned and whined and bitched all the way to the tap (tap water is drinkable in Canada and is so cheap it's almost free). In fact, one can go anywhere in Toronto or even most of North America for that matter, and ask for a cup of water and get it. This guy had so much of a problem, that it pissed the hell out of me. I started yelling at the top of my lungs how water is FREE and why he had so much of an attitude. A lot of people in the restaurant agreed with me, and my friends had to pull me out of the restaurant before I drove his customers away. I hate these kind of selfish people and it's a shame that these kind of people exist.
The most devastating part is when you have a friend who's like that. It's really upsetting that he/she would not give a damn about you..so much that even after years of knowing them, they would still try to cheat you or hustle you or try to get an upper hand in some opportunity you are involved with, just because they are in a position of power or are the only connection between you and something or somebody else. No matter how much you do for these people, because they do not respect you or think they are smarter than you; they will never miss an opportunity to try to get whatever they want out of it, at any cost to you. This one goes out to you, you piece of shit. Don't think that I will forget. It's sad that you chose to treat me that way for something SO insignificant...something so small that if you would have just come out and told me I would have gladly done for you. You have lost a great friend and a strong ally..even though I was always there to help you with your problems. How could you do something so simple-minded...something SO cheap after everything I've done for you? It just makes me sad that I've tried so much to help you, and this is how you repay me for over 8 years of friendship. You know all you had to do was stick around and be a good friend, and you would have benefited from me. But you don't know anything about the long-run...do you?
I know that all of you reading this have or have had a friend like this, especially the girls out there (no offense to the good girls). I hope my readers take something from this post. Cut these people out of your life; it's better to chop off the finger rather than letting the cancer spread to your entire arm and the rest of your body. And always make sure that if there is someone you don't trust, don't do anything with them. No transactions, no trade, no friendship. Even if everything looks rosy now, there will always be a pending liability: an accident just waiting to happen. Try to avoid these kind of people, because if you are always caught up in calculating and trying to solve little problems here and there, and involved in little squabbles...you will never see the big picture. It's like being stuck in a bucket of crabs.. every time you get close to the top, another crab will always pull you down. And to the unfortunate people with these permanent selfish, mean and narcissistic minds: you will never grow, you will never be loved and worst of all....you will never be free.
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ray